{"id":192,"date":"2004-11-17T07:56:54","date_gmt":"2004-11-17T13:56:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/grammar.editormum.com\/?p=192"},"modified":"2011-01-30T21:57:22","modified_gmt":"2011-01-31T03:57:22","slug":"just-between-you-and-me-you-have-to-pick-your-pronouns-carefully","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/grammar.editormum.com\/?p=192","title":{"rendered":"Just between you and me, you have to pick your pronouns carefully!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of the most prevalent grammatical mistakes that the Grammar  Guru battles (on a daily basis!) is the wrong choice of pronouns in  phrases like &#8220;between you and I \/ me&#8221; or &#8220;my sister and I \/ me.&#8221; It  really isn&#8217;t so very hard to get the right one, when you know the trick.<\/p>\n<p>The trick is to say the phrase without the additional person and see what the <strong><em>real<\/em><\/strong> sentence is. For example: Which pronoun goes in the blank in each of the following sentences?<\/p>\n<p>John and ___ went to the movies.<br \/>\nThat book was shared by John and ____. <span style=\"font-size: x-small;\">(Don&#8217;t start shrieking about passive voice, it&#8217;s just an example!)<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Obviously,  you wouldn&#8217;t say &#8220;me went to the movies&#8221; unless you were raised in the  jungle by apes, so the answer in the first blank is &#8220;I.&#8221; But you  wouldn&#8217;t say &#8220;That book is owned by I,&#8221; so &#8220;me&#8221; goes in the second  blank.<\/p>\n<p>It has to do with the <strong><em>case<\/em><\/strong> of  the pronoun in question. Remember case? That thing your English teacher  sort of discussed &#8212; confusingly? The two cases that concern us in this  post are the Subjective and the Objective.<\/p>\n<p>The Subjective case  serves as the subject of a sentence or clause. So when your phrase is  the subject of a sentence, you must\u00a0use the Nominative case: I, you, he,  she, it, we,\u00a0they. I know &#8220;John and they went to the movies&#8221; sounds  goofy, <strong><em>but it&#8217;s correct! <\/em><\/strong>(If the sound of it  bothers you, reconstruct the sentence: &#8220;They went with John to the  movies&#8221; or &#8220;John went with them to the movies.&#8221;)<\/p>\n<p>The Objective  case serves as an object &#8212; of a verb, preposition, etc. So when your  phrase is an object, you must use Objective case: me, you, him, her, it,  us, them. Again, this can sometimes land you with goofy-sounding  phrases, but they are grammatically correct.<\/p>\n<p>Some additional examples to cement this idea in your head. <strong><em>All<\/em><\/strong> of the following are <strong><em>correct usage:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Dad took my brother and me to the fair.<\/li>\n<li>My mom and I are great friends.<\/li>\n<li>Jim and Anne took them to Ciro&#8217;s.<\/li>\n<li>They and I went to The Mottled Oyster for cocktails.<\/li>\n<li>Just between you and me, that dress makes her look like a manatee. [Or say, &#8220;Just between us&#8221; and you won&#8217;t have to worry!]<\/li>\n<li>This is a secret between you and me.<\/li>\n<li>You and I are going to kidnap that child.<\/li>\n<li>He and they are being silly.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the most prevalent grammatical mistakes that the Grammar Guru battles (on a daily basis!) is the wrong choice of pronouns in phrases like &#8220;between you and I \/ me&#8221; or &#8220;my sister and I \/ me.&#8221; It really isn&#8217;t so very hard to get the right one, when you know the trick. 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